Wedding planning can be stressful, particularly if the bride-to-be isn’t just thinking about her own nuptials, but also serving as a bridesmaid in other ceremonies around the same time. Not to mention, many happy grooms- and brides-to-be have their summer and fall weekends booked with weddings of other family members and friends. As a bride, it is important to establish when the right time to shine is, and when it isn’t. According to The Huffington Post, there are a number of bride-to-be do’s and don’ts.

One of the rudest things one bride can do to a fellow bride is to book or buy something the other bride wants, but cannot afford. If a friend loves a certain venue or wedding dress and it doesn’t fit into their budget, her bride-pal shouldn’t go for it either, according to the news source.

Constantly comparing weddings is another faux pas. No two couples have the same budgets with the exact same style, so there isn’t any reason to sit and compare constantly. Brides-to-be – whether they are in the weddings of friends or not – should just be there for fellow brides when needed, especially since they will want the same treatment.